Small things

Isn't it fine that we are all so different. I don't mean the big differences - fat or skinny, tall or short, blonde or brunette - but the small things, like moles and freckles, length of eyelashes or shape of nails.

Of course that's just our outsides. Our insides are different too. How we think and feel. For one person they won't bat an eyelid at someone swearing, the next person could be very offended. There are plenty folk who would love to paint their kitchens pink and then the rest who think this is odd. 

We all have our problems and it's so easy to think that you shouldn't complain because other people are worse off. This is not helpful really. Your problems are your own no matter how huge or tiny they may seem to others. 

Can you change things?

Well you can dye your hair, wear high heels (this is not recommended for everyone) and get false lashes. You can try to lose weight or bulk up at the gym. 

Insides are harder to change. You could try to tolerate swearing - just words after all. You could paint your kitchen pink and hope you learn to love it. Can you really change the way you think and feel? No, I don't think so but it's all about small things.

Try not to judge. Try not to sweat the small stuff. Count to five. Don't compare your problems to others, it's not helpful. Be kind. Be generous (with your thoughts and actions if nothing else). Smile and laugh and share good things.

If you feel bad - do one thing, and count your blessings. I don't mean to sound condescending but this is what I always try dry to do, and it helps. This can be really really hard but dig deep and find something. You always have something no matter how bad it gets. Be it pretty eyes, or a funny laugh, a healthy family, or a kind heart. Find that one thing and think of that and don't let it go. This morning for me it was my cosy comfy bed - and I didn't want to leave it lol.

Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.